The Girl taken for granted

She doesn't know you that much but she gave you a chance.

She's not ready to meet someone yet but she gave you her trust.

She waits for your call in the afternoon even if she has something more important to do.

She waits for your call in the wee hours of the night even if she's already tired.

She waits for your text, hoping that you ate well and you got home safely.

She stays in front of the computer waiting for you to go online.

She sings for you just to make you happy.

She makes you laugh with her crazy stories and jokes.

She listens to your stories and remembers every details of them.


She gets paranoid whenever you wouldn't call her.

She doesn't get mad even if she knows deep inside, you're just making excuses.

She still talks to you even if she wanted to avoid you.

She believed you when you said you will never ever leave her and you'll always be at her side.

She still hopes that everything will be fine and you will realize her worth.


But despite all her efforts and heartaches, you still left her and taken her for granted.

But still, she never got mad when you said goodbye...

She even told you to take care of yourself because you mean a lot to her...

She just cried and hoped that someday, she will forget all these things so she can be truly happy again.

Si Highschool crush :)

Ayoko nang maging emo kaya magba-blog na muna ako ng masaya ngayon :)

Nung 3rd yr. highschool kami, saka ko naging classmate si highschool crush (HC). Una ko siyang naging crush nung tinuruan niya ako sa Math noon. Hindi naman kami close pa noon tapos biglang lumapit na lang siya sa akin para turuan ako sa Math workbook namin. Ayun, simula noon, napansin ko na siya.

E ang kaso ang dami pa lang nagkakacrush din sa kanya! Hahaha. Sa itsura niyang yun na mukhang pusa?! haha. E siguro kasi, mysterious ang dating kasi tahimik.

Tapos naging seatmates kami nung 3rd quarter. Yung katabi ko sa kabila, nakakaasar yun. Magulo. Lagi akong inaasar tapos sinusulatan ako ng ballpen sa kamay. E sa diin ng pagsulat niya, nasusugatan na ako. Nakita yun ni HC. Bigla niyang hinawakan yung kamay kong may sugat, at biglang sabi: "Camille, magpapasulat ka na lang kasi sa kanya para hindi ka nasusugat." O di ba, ang sweet?! Hahaha. leche siya.

Tapos since seatmates nga kami, naging close na rin kami nun. Lagi kaming review partners. Tinatakpan ko nga mukha ko ng libro kapag siya na yung nirereview ko e.. hahaha. E kinikilig kasi ako noon tapos hindi ko mapigilan tawa ko (actually hanggang ngayon na sinusulat ko e natatawa ako). Tapos siya rin lagi kong kakopyahan sa lahat ng subjects.

Ang hindi ko makakalimutan, nung nagkasakit ako ng ilang araw tapos umabsent ako. Tapos nung pumasok na ako, may surprise quiz sa Math at sa Chemistry. E malamang hindi ko alam isasagot dun kasi kapapasok ko lang! Bumulong siya agad sa akin, "Camille, kopya ka na lang sa akin." E di siyempre perfect ako maski wala akong alam sa lesson na yun! Hahaha.

Nung 4th year na kami, narealized ko na parang gumagrabe na yung pagkagusto ko sa kanya na kailangan ko nang umiwas. May pagkaganun kasi akong ugali. Natatakot akong mahalata niya. Pero nahalata rin naman niya na umiiwas ako. Sabi pa niya sa akin nung nagkasabay kami minsan papuntang classroom, "Umiiwas ka na a. Suplada ka na." Na dineny ko namang bonggang-bongga na, "Ako umiiwas? Hindi a. Ba't naman ako iiwas?" (Pansin ko lang hanggang ngayon, ganito dialogue ko kapag nabubuking ako.. hahaha).

Pero hindi na talaga rin masyado kami nag-usap nun. Hanggang sa malapit nang maggraduation. Tumatawag siya sa amin noon lagi para magpadictate ng mga sagot sa review tests namin. Ewan ko nga kung bakit all of a sudden biglang ako yung naisipan niyang tawagan. At parang engot lang na hindi ba siya nakapakinig sa teachers namin nung umagang yun para tawagan pa ako at ulitin ko lang din mga sinabi ng teachers namin?! 

Tapos nung malapit nang mag-graduation ball noon, nagkasabay kami ulit pauwi. Kasama niya yung bestfriend niya, tapos kasama ko naman bestfriend ko. Ganito naging usapan namin:

Bestfriend niya: Camille hindi kayo pupunta sa gradball?

HC: Hindi naman pupunta yang mga yan e.

Ako: Oo hindi kami pupunta kasi may sarili kaming party e (sabay tawa ng pilit).

HC: Alam mo Camille, maraming madidisappoint na mag-aalok sa iyo kung hindi ka pupunta.

At sabi naman ng mahadera kong bestfriend, kasali raw si HC dun. Parang pinariringgan niya ako at that time "daw". Pero nabalitaan ko after nung grad ball, nakasayaw niya yung sinasabing crush daw niya sa classroom namin e and they looked good together. Habang tinutukso siya at that time, niloloko rin ako ng bestfriend ko noon. Sabi ba naman sa akin, "Hala Camille, iyak na. Iyak na!" Hahaha. Bwiset siya.

Tapos siyempre wala nang communication after ng highschool. Nung nagtatrabaho na lang ulit ako sa Bahrain. Minsan-minsan nakakapag-usap kami sa YM. Pinost ko pa nga yata yung ilan sa Multiply blog ko e.

At saka pala kanina nagkausap din kami. Medyo weird pero in a good way naman ang feeling ko sa kanya. Kasi super nagbago na siya. Hindi na siya yung dati na parang tuod na walang emosyon, at sobrang tahimik na tao. Ngayon, mas sociable na siya, marunong na mag-approach at nagkukwento na.

Nagtaka siya sa shout-out ko kanina kasi it's about my crush who's an Indian doctor na ikakasal na today. I call him Mcdreamy. Nagtaka tuloy si HC kung sino raw si Mcdreamy at siyempre naikwento ko. Hanggang sa nauwi ang kwentuhan sa kasal.

Ako: Ikaw kelan ka magpapakasal?

HC: Kapag umibig na.

Ako: Weh hindi ka pa umiibig?

HC: Bata pa ako para isipin ang mga ganung bagay...

At nauwi ang kwentuhan sa mga pinaggagagawa namin nung highschool kami. Nung seatmates pa kami, review partners, kopyahan buddies, at mga kung anu-ano pa.

Nakakamiss.

Nakakakilig pa rin.

Nothing beats highschool.

Iba pa rin si Highschool crush. :)

 

How to avoid being clingy

Sometimes, when I like someone, I tend to be clingy with him. I always want to talk to him, see him, and share stories with him. Of course, I like the person that's why I'm interested in knowing him. But I guess, this habit of mine is really unhealthy. My friends even said that I'm PARANOID (Oh yeah, I've heard it for more than 10 times now!). But I can't help it! I always think of negative things whenever he would not call me throughout the day. :(

So to help myself from being a clingy-freak, I googled this topic and I would like to share these steps to those girls (or even guys) who want to change their attitude for a loving and healthier relationship.

HOW TO AVOID BEING CLINGY:

1. 
   
   Trust the other person totally. They are not like your ex, and will not do the same thing to you. Not every man or every woman is out to break your heart or steal your money. Relax and do not blow a good relationship because you feel selfish.
2. 
   
   Realize that the one you love is in love with who you are. That will not change unless you continue to be selfish and that will only serve to drive that person away. Be yourself, the person they fell in love with and not the person who clings and is selfish.
3. 
   
   Keep yourself busy. When you feel like being clingy usually, it is because you are lonely and keeping busy will eliminate that need. Find a hobby, read a book, visit a friend, or clean your house from top to bottom do anything you can do to avoid being selfish. (Or in my case, REVIEW!)
4. 
   
   Realize that the one you love has a life which you are a part of. You are not that person's whole life and you should not consume them, for that only brings heartbreak to both of you. Do not try to consume their every waking moment of their life; they have jobs and a life outside of you.
5. Allow the person to be themselves. You fell in love with that person because of whom they were, and if you cling to them for life support then you are changing them from whom you love. You should never want to change someone you love.
6. Realize that if you try to control the actions of the one you profess to love, you will lose that person. Let that person be him or herself. For if you try to control they will high tail it out of the relationship, as no one likes to be controlled.

In my case, well I guess I'm still having problems regarding trust issues. Maybe putting up high walls for my defense, is really not a good idea. Eventhough I wanted to give my whole trust to someone, I still have this fear that he might broke it and I will be in pain again. :(

But I'm trying. I'm trying to break the walls and to trust someone again.

I just hope he is true enough and will wait for me when the time comes that I'm ready to be with him. :)

*Oo nga pala. Si Juan ay si Juan at si Pedro ay si Pedro. Hindi sila magkaparehas at magkaibang tao sila.*

Hanep

Ang bilis talaga ng DHL. Natanggap ko na kahapon yung mga papers na kailangan ko. Nagsabi na rin ako dun sa nag-aayos ng visa ko sa Dubai na ok na at pwede na nilang simulang ayusin yung papers ko dun. Nagreply naman siya agad. Sabi niya, pwede na raw ako magpabooked ng end of March. Ang bilis din talaga ng panahon ano?

Masaya ba ako?

Sa totoo lang, eto yung hindi ko maintindihan sa sarili ko. Kapag nasa Pinas ako, gusto kung umalis at makapagtrabaho na ulit sa ibang bansa. Kapag nasa ibang bansa na ako, gusto ko na ulit umuwi at makasama ang mga mahal ko sa buhay. Kahapon nung nareceive ko yung papers ko, medyo nalungkot ako. Inaasahan ko kasi next week ko pa marereceive yun. Sabi kasi ng DHL sa akin last week, 7 working days daw excluding weekends. So ang bilang ko talaga, sa Tuesday next week ko pa marereceive. E pero ganun e. Nareceive ko na kahapon. Dapat nga di ba nagpapasalamat ako at naayos nang maaga! Haha. Ang gulo ko lang talaga. Sabi ko nga e. Bipolar ako.

Kaya rin siguro hindi ako masyadong masaya na natapos ko nang ayusin yung papers ko ay dahil ang dami ko pang pending na lakad. Sa totoo lang, modesty aside, ang hirap maging Ms. Congeniality. Masaya ako na ang dami kong kaibigan, ang dami kong grupong sinalihan, at ang daming nagmamahal sa akin. Super natouched ako na ang daming nagtext, natuwa, at gustong makipagkita muna sa akin bago ako bumalik ng Dubai. Pero sad to say, kaunti pa lang ang nakasama kong friends. Sana naman maintindihan ako ng iba kong kaibigan na nahihirapan din naman akong i-schedule ang sarili ko sa lahat ng lakad ko. Gusto ko silang lahat makita at maibigay yung mga pasalubong ko. Ang kaso lang, nagrereview din naman ako, at sa totoo lang, tinitipid ko rin yung allowance na binigay sa akin nila mama dahil nga mamamasahe pa ako pabalik sa Dubai. Sana naman maintindihan nila na may mga bagay na ganito na kahit gusto mo naman talagang sumama, may priorities ka ring iba na mas dapat mauna.

Pero promise. Ta-try ko namang pangatawanan ang pagiging kaibigan ko sa inyo. I'll try my best to meet you guys before I leave. :)

At nakakatawa ang romantic horoscope ko kanina sa FB. Pakibasa lalo na yung last line...

(Pakiclick na lang po to enlarge image. Kasi kapag nilakihan ko, hindi kakasya sa border)

Haha.. parang saktong-sakto na ewan ko. Nakakalungkot na ewan ko rin tuloy nararamdaman ko naman dito :(

Anyway, bahala na. Lubusin ang mga natitirang araw.

PS: Naalis si Adam Lambert sa American Idol!!!!! Yung bet ko na mananalo from my previous entry. Ano ba yan. Mukhang lagi na lang mali instinct ko ngayon a. What's happening???!

You give me something

I was watching American Idol last night and one of the contestants sang this song.

You give me something by James Morrison

You give me something that makes me scared, alright

This could be nothing, but I'm willing to give it a try :)

I've found out something yesterday which made me a bit shocked. But as the hours passed last night, I realized that we all have our fair-share of first love, one true love, first heartache, and the likes. Only a few among us are very lucky to have their first love as their partners for a long time. Even soulmates don't end up with each other. And we all are not sure of what tomorrow might bring to us. We will never know who's really the one for us.

But I still believe in destiny. That no matter how long and how many obstacles you've faced in your lifetime, if two people are meant for each other, then God will make a way to keep them together.

Reasons to be happy

Wala akong ibang nararamdaman ngayon kundi pure happiness (aside sa sumasakit na puson dahil first day ko.. hahaha binlog pa e noh).

1. Naaayos ko na unti-unti ang papers ko. Tapos na siya sa Dep ed. Kukunin ko na siya by next week sa DFA at naka-red ribbon na. Dadalhin ko na yun after sa DHL para patatakan nila sa UAE embassy. Hindi naman pala ganun katagal din e. So one problem, almost solved!

2. Yung magiging kasamahan ko sa work sa Dubai, lagi akong tinatanong kung ano ng balita sa akin para raw mapaayos na niya yung visa ko. Sobrang thankful ako na napunta ako sa kanila kasi talagang tinutulungan naman nila ako. Gratitude ko na sa kanila na ipasa ko yung exam ko sa April.

3. Yung isa sa mga naging kaclose kong doktor sa ospital na pinagtrabahuan ko sa Bahrain dati ay ginreet ako sa fb ko. Nangangamusta. Talagang super touched ako nung binati niya ko. Actually kapag naaalala ko nga sila sa ngayon, yung mga kasamahan ko dun sa ospital na yun, naiiyak ako. Ako lang ang bukod tanging pinay nurse dun at lahat sila halos Indians. Pero mababait sila sa akin talaga. Magkakaiba man sa language, culture, religion, at POV sa buhay, masasabi kong maswerte ako dahil napasama ako sa kanila. Hindi naman lahat ng kalahi nila ay masama ang ugali. Parang Pinoy din. Hindi lahat dapat pagkatiwalaan. Pare-parehas lang tayong lahat na gawa ni God. Minsan, nagi-guilty ako dahil sa mga pinagsasabi ko sa dati kong blog about sa kanila. Siguro dala lang yun ng frustration ko sa work ko dun. Pero ganunpaman, I'm very grateful to them for giving me a wonderful working experience, and of course, for the friendship and trust that they've given me until now. I'm glad I have Indian friends! :)

4. Nagkasama-sama na naman kami ng mga kabarkada ko nung HS. Nagpaintball kami at sleep over nung Monday! Hehe. Ang saya-saya lang! I love you so much my BFFs!!! :)

Hahaha.. kinikilig yata ako habang nilalagyan ni Kuya ng gear!

Green team vs. Black team (Siyempre nanalo kami! Hahaha. Over-all champion yata ako! :D)

David Garcia Jrs. ang dating namin dito a!

4. Medyo ibinababa ko na ang walls ko. :) E kasi, pinangaralan ako ng isang tao. Yung walls ko raw lampas-lampasan na sa ulo ko (di ba nga sabi ko rin sa last entry ko nahihirapan din naman talaga ako). Fine, nakamoved on daw ako sa isang taong minahal at pinahalagahan ko noon na nauwi sa wala, pero dun sa situation na sinasabi kong ayaw ko nang balikan, yung pagiging takot kong maging pathetic, hindi raw. Kaya raw ako takot magtry kasi iniisip ko na masasaktan ako kaya umiiwas na ako agad. Which is true naman talaga. Kumbaga raw, hindi ko pa sinasagot ung lalake, iniisip ko na yung stage na masasaktan na ako! Hahaha parang praning lang!

Oo, si "O" yung nagsabi ng mga yan. Matanda na kasi kaya maraming nalalaman sa buhay! hahahaha. Ang natutuwa naman ako sa kanya, hindi niya ako pinepressure. Alam niya naman kasi na marami pa akong inaayos as of now, lalo na yung exam ko sa April. Sinusuportahan naman niya ako. At saka for the first time, parang sa kanya ko nafeel na hindi ko kailangang magworry na baka bukas wala na siya. Well, sana nga ganun. Basta, masarap lang ulit kiligin! hahahaha. arte lang e noh.

Hay Lord. Salamat ng sobra. Parang sobrang okay nga na umuwi muna ako. Well, marami pa akong mga pending na lakad. Marami pa kong pasalubong na hindi pa nabibigay.. hehe. Sana naman maibigay ko rin yun bago ako mag-fly away ulit.

Ang tanging ikinakakaba ko as of now, e yung nalalapit kong oral exam!!!!!!!! Nyay!!!! Nagrereview-review na rin naman ako. Kaso siyempre, praning ako, maski feeling ko hindi naman tatanungin sa akin e pinagkakaabalahan ko ng panahon. Nao-overwhelmed tuloy ako. Kaya sabi nung mga nakapasa ko nang co-workers ko dun sa Dubai, huwag ko raw pahirapan sarili ko sa pagrereview. Major diseases lang daw nga. Huwag i-memorize, intindihin lang. OKAY! Sige ganun na nga lang!

Pero nonetheless, super happy ako. :)))))))))

PS: Pinangalanan ko itong blog kong ito ng Everything but love life kasi sabi ko, malas ako sa parteng yun kaya ayoko na lang iblog. Pero mukhang these last few entries ko e tungkol dun. Hmmmm... Baka mapalitan ko na rin yung title ng blog kong ito a! Hahahaha. Joke. It's too early to say that. I'm just glad I have someone to cheer me up. :) (Shet, wala nang katapusang smiley ang entry na to a! hahaha)

The sturdy walls

Believe it or not, I started reviewing just a few minutes ago for my oral examinations on the 15th of April. Then I got bored just by scanning my thick (actually my friend's since I borrowed it from her) Medical-Surgical Nursing book. Gahd! Why do we have to take examinations all the time?! Tsk.

So I'll just make a short blog entry about an sms sent to me yesterday by a friend:

They met...

But the timing isn't right..

She has her reasons and he has his..

They're both confused..

So they decided to part ways..

She wants him to wait, he said he will..

Whatever it takes..

Years later, they saw each other again..

..but too much time has passed..

too late to make it work..

Lesson?

People change, so does the heart..

Seize the moment..

For in truth..

Nobody waits forever. :(

----> made me more scared than ever! haha If you are a friend of mine who's been reading this blog for quite some time, you probably read my entry about me having my walls to prevent myself from getting hurt all the time. Mind you, it isn't easy to have those. Most of the time, I feel like I have two persons inside me, telling me to believe and be positive, and the other one telling me the exact opposite. Sometimes, I'd like to lower down my walls just to at least give someone a chance or the benefit of the doubt that maybe, just maybe, he won't hurt me like the previous ones. But since these walls of mine are built after a long time now, they became a bit sturdier than before, that even I could not break it. I'm still dwelling with trust issues, insecurities, and a lot of pressure from my responsibilities that I must accomplish within a short span of time.

I sometimes thought that I hope I never built that walls in the first place. After all, being hurt and scared are all part of loving. It is not always rainbows and butterflies. In order for love to grow and be strong, we should take chances and believe that there is still a happy ending. Because if we continue to be scared of being hurt again, then we'll never be able to love and be loved again.

Then I saw this status message from my friend in facebook:

"The thing is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just have to choose who is worth the pain."

As of now, I'm still in the process of trying to break down my walls. But maybe, taking a shot at this time is worth giving a try. I don't know. We never know what's the best decision anyway unless we try.

Pero natatakot pa rin akong maramdaman ulit ang selos, paranoia, disappointments, and everythAng else na kaakibat ng feeling na ayokong maramdaman sa ngayon!

Happy hearts day everyone!

For all the pics, credit goes to Plats. :)

Akala ko rin hindi about sa reporting ito! Haha.

Kung bakit kasi may mga pa-fall?! O di sana walang assuming!

Proven and affected! Haha

Or memorize talaga yung number niya! :)

Uh-hum... :o

A bit early for this greeting, I know. But I'm still anticipating Feb 14 of this year because of 3 reasons: PBB double up big night (Melay for the big winner! wohoo!!), expiration date of my visa (haha), and simply because it's Valentine's day. Who said it's only for couples? :)

                  

Again,

Happy Valentine's day! Much love and kisses!

--- **cutiemaartie.blogspot.com** :)

The old Me

Usapan namin ng friend ko kanina sa ym:

Friend: Sana yung dating Camille ang naabutan niya.. hehehe

Ako: Na? Yung banat ng banat? hahaha

Friend: Oo. Yung Camille na hindi pa takot.

Iniisip ko yan simula pa kanina. Siguro nga, sobrang natakot na ako na masaktan ulit kaya ganito ako ngayon. Ngayon kasi, dinibdib ko na masyado ang mga katagang "Guard your heart."

Hindi ako ganito noon, promise. Noon, utu-uto ako, madaling mabola, at madaling ma-fall. At madalas akong masaktan dahil sa kashungahan kong ganyan. Madalas akong umiyak, madalas magpakapathetic, at ang laging sumbungan ay ang dakilang blog na mababasa ng ibang tao. Tapos mababasa ko ulit yun after some time, at eeewwwness naman talaga! Hahaha.

Ayoko na nang ganun. Kaya tinuruan ko sarili ko maging numb. I put walls around myself. Sa bawat actuations ng kung sinuman (mostly lalakeng nagpapacute), lahat nilalagyan ko ng negative meaning. Lagi kong sinasabi sa sarili ko na, hindi rin yan magtatagal katulad ng iba. Huwag ka mag-invest ng special feelings mo diyan. Masasabi kong it worked naman for me. Kumbaga, mas pinapagana ko na kasi yung utak ko. Hindi na yung lagi nadadaan sa emosyon.

Minsan, ang dami kong tanong na gustong itanong, ang dami kong bagay na gusto kong gawin, pero dahil I have my walls around me, I was restricted. Limited yung kilos ko. Dapat eto lang ang sasabihin, dapat eto lang ang ipaparamdam. Nothing more, nothing less.

Mahirap din pala. Hindi ko masabi lahat ng gusto kong sabihin kasi nga natatakot ako na baka pag may mali akong nasabi o nagawa, mawawala yung isang bagay/tao na mahalaga sa akin. Hindi ko alam kung tama ba yung ginagawa kong ganito. In fairness, wala pa namang nasisira na anuman. Hindi naman ako nasasaktan pa nang bonggang-bongga kagaya noon na kailangan kong iiyak.

Pero hindi rin naman ako masaya. So, ibig sabihin ba tama yung ginagawa ko?

Nag-iingat lang naman kasi ako. Ayoko lang matulad sa dati na I always give chance pero sa huli ako yung umuuwing luhaan. Mahirap din kaya magmove on at mahirap magsimula ulit na parang walang nangyari!

Naalala ko tuloy yung sabi nung isa ko pang friend sa akin. Totoo raw yung kantang I know I'll never love this way again. Kasi once you've been hurt by what had happened in the past, you'd be too cautious with your actions the next time.

Hay, siguro nga totoo yung kantang yun.

Pero ayoko namang habambuhay akong takot. Siguro, darating din ang time na may isang taong makakatibag ng walls ko. :)

My most favorite song of 2009

I've blogged this song before but this video is way cooler than the other video.

So to all those cheesy, hopeless romantic, and jologs as I am, enjoy this vid! :)

Bungee Jumping

(Ui, Tagalog ulit! Parang nagkakaroon tuloy ng pattern ang posting ko rito. English-Tagalog-English-Tagalog. Ewan. Basta.. read na lang!)

Parang ang saya magbungee jumping noh? Siguro super saya at thrilling ng experience na ito. Pero kasi, takot din ako e. Takot akong ma-fall. Ayoko pa talaga. Paano kung walang sasalo sa akin sa ibaba, paano kung walang airbed/mattress dun? O di ang sakit. Mahirap kaya makarecover sa ganoong klase ng pagkaka-fall na walang sasalo sa iyo. Masakit yun sa puso, este sa buto at katawan!

Kaya ayoko ma-fall. Pinipigilan ko. Pero kung halimbawang nakasuspend na ako sa air at nagstart nang magbungee jumping sa ngayon, ang estimation ko e malapit na ako sa ground. Malapit na akong ma-fall!

Kaya hindi pwede ito. Hindi talaga. Tsk.







Huwag ka na kasi masyadong mabait. Huwag mo na ko kausapin muna. Huwag kang mangamusta. Huwag mo muna kong bolahin. Ewan kung yun yung tama. Ewan kung unfair ako sa gagawin ko pero kasi... ayoko nang ganito.


Hindi na muna kita kakausapin... kahit gusto ko. :(

I really hate it

Take this scenario:

A boy and a girl hanging out for a few months (dining out, watching movies, calling each other, and the likes). As a girl, you feel/know there's something going on between the two of you. But of course you don't want to assume. The boy doesn't tell you anything except for the constant I had a great time with you, I miss you's, and the "pahaging" effects men usually do (C'mon, admit it. 99.9% of the male population does that). So one day, since the girl is really confused about what's the real score of their relationship, she confronted the guy. The guy finally admitted that he likes the girl and wants them to be more than friends (hallelujah!!!). But here's the catch: He wanted to give it a little more time since he's not sure if he's really over with his ex.

The moment I heard this from my friend, I palpitated a bit and started feeling so pissed off. I've been in this situation a lot of times and I know exactly how the girl feels.

Questions/Arguments running into my mind as my friend was telling this scenario to me:

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  Why did the guy started going out with another girl when he's not over with his past relationship?
  
  
  
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  Why did the girl confronted the guy when she can wait for a little more time for the guy to open-up?
  
  
  
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  Was the guy just looking for someone to divert his attention? a rebound perhaps?
  
  
  
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  Why did the girl let herself to actually "fall in love" with the guy who's not sure about his feelings for her?
  
  
  

But after writing this whole scenario again for the introduction of this blog entry, I've realized some things and these are my answers to my queries...

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  How did I ever ask the first question when in fact, I, myself, have done this to someone a few years back. Yes, I went out with someone to divert my feelings for someone special. I don't have any bad intentions at that time, really. I don't want to use him and take his feelings for granted. My original plan before was to give this other suitor a chance and if everything went well, I can finally ditch my special someone. But, unfortunately, it didn't work out. I broke his heart and wasn't able to mend mine as well. So maybe, the guy's plan here was just to have fun and forget his loneliness which I think is somewhat acceptable (haha!).
  
  
  
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  For some reasons, men really like the "chase". They really want to keep the guessing game alive, whether the girl already likes him or not. Well, that's what most of my male friends told me. But another boy friend (platonic---hope not! haha) of mine has a different view about this topic. He said, if the guy really likes the girl, and he found out that the girl also likes him, then that's it! He's already in cloud nine. So I say, the boy in this scenario is still confused about his feelings not only for his ex, but also for the girl he's been hanging out with.
  
  
  
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  Refer to the first answer.
  
  
  
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  I think it's better if we can get the girl (who is actually involved in the scenario) for her answer about this one.. hehe. But here's what I say. As a girl who's been in this kind of situation before, we really cannot control our feelings towards each other. It is very difficult. No matter how high you put up your walls to guard your emotions, we can't do anything when our heart already made a decision.
  
  
  

So my advice for the girl, READ THIS.

And for the boy...

I actually wanted to tell you a lot of things. But after analyzing the whole situation, I understand that you're also a human and not different from us, girls. I just hope you figure-out your real feelings soon because you might lose them both. Oopps, my bad. I mean, you actually lose your girlfriend, but now you might also lose your friend.

PS: I have a teenie-weenie small confession to make. :) I'm actually (almost) at the same boat with the girl in the scenario above (but promise, the scenario is not about me). The only difference is that I never confronted the guy, even until now. That's what I've learned from my experiences before. Never ask when you know there's no definite answer to your question.

PPS: To my girl friend (again, platonic) who's reading this. Yes, you are the girl I've been referring to! hehe. And I hope you've learned your lessons from your past experiences which are all the same (don't you think?). Please be wiser this time. Love you much! :*

PPPS: After so much deliberations and sighs, I don't hate the scenario that much anymore. But I won't change the title anymore (redundant. noticed it too).

PPPPS: I'm just adding another post-script so it won't be three like the last time.. haha. So okay, I'll end it here.

In choosing the one

1. It's not enough that he's cute.

2. It's not enough that he has nice set of teeth.

3. It's not enough that he has perfect skin.

4. It's not enough that he's kind.

5. It's not enough that he's small (the height i mean. *evil grin*)

6. It's not enough that he's smart.

7. It's not enough he can make you laugh.

8. It's not enough that he has a good body (even how DEYMN HOT it is).

9. It's not enough that he has a car.

10. It's not enough that he's a good cook.

11. It's not enough that he has a lot of good ideas.

12. It's not enough that he's very thoughtful.

13. It's not enough that he's a hopeless-romantic like you do.

14. It's not enough that he's rich.

15. It's not enough that he has a good diction and proper grammar usage.

16. It's not enough that he apologizes for anything stupid he did (even if it was your mistake actually! hehe)

17. It's not enough that he's bald.

18. It's not enough that he had long hair.

19. It's not enough that he's a good listener.

20. It's not enough even if you have so many, as in sooooo many things in common.

But he's just a boy...

he doesn't understand

how it feels to love a girl

he doesn't care how it hurts

until he lose the one he wanted

cause he's taken her for granted

and everything they had got destroyed.

PS: This is just out of boredom and not about me. Promise! :)

PPS: I really want to post my Dubey pics here and in my fb but I'm still waiting for the good news.. so later!

PPPS: this is me and my good hair day pic! Hehe... My hair is getting longer now. Thank goodness! :)

Cheesy

Sorry for being a corny, hopeless romantic but stuff like this really makes my day! :)

He's just not that into you

Most of my friends are coming to me for pieces of love advice nowadays and I don't know why. I'm not a love guru who's expert about such matters (that's why this blog is entitled Everything but love life), but nonetheless, I have something up in my sleeves. :)

I bought a book by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, entitled He's just not that into you. It is so helpful and it comes in handy during times when Mr. Right turned into Mr. Wrong. I had a great time reading the book because I can relate to some of the circumstances the authors had written inside. I actually highlighted some key points which I think is important for us, women, to know and I would like to share them to you.

Here they are...

1. Meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel better, not worse.

2. No more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared.

3. If a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being with you.

4. Don't lower the bar because you're lonely.

5. Cheating doesn't mean "just happen". It's a complete betrayal of trust.

6. Lying, cheating, hiding is the exact opposite of the behavior of a man who's really into you.

7. Don't let your desire to be loved and feel affection cloud your judgment.

8. A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves.

9. What guys do if they can't live without you: They don't break up with you.

10. Always be classy. Never be crazy.

11. Best revenge is not anger, but emotional distance.

12. Any good, mature guy better make an attempt to love your friends and family---especially when they're great.

13. Being the person who makes you feel shitty or doesn't honor the person you are, is worse.

14. The minute you realize the situation is making you feel depressed and hurt and it's really not going to go the way you want it to, please put an end to it as soon as you can.

It's really worth reading. By the time you finished reading this book, you'll be smarter to pick out the rotten tomatoes among the bunch. *wink*

I'll end this entry with this paragraph from the book:

"Don't ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don't waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all the things he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie. The only good thing you need to know is that it's really good news: He's gone. Hallelujah!"

Goodluck! :)

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