Most of my friends are coming to me for pieces of love advice nowadays and I don't know why. I'm not a love guru who's expert about such matters (that's why this blog is entitled Everything but love life), but nonetheless, I have something up in my sleeves. :)
I bought a book by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, entitled He's just not that into you. It is so helpful and it comes in handy during times when Mr. Right turned into Mr. Wrong. I had a great time reading the book because I can relate to some of the circumstances the authors had written inside. I actually highlighted some key points which I think is important for us, women, to know and I would like to share them to you.
Here they are...
1. Meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel better, not worse.
2. No more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared.
3. If a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being with you.
4. Don't lower the bar because you're lonely.
5. Cheating doesn't mean "just happen". It's a complete betrayal of trust.
6. Lying, cheating, hiding is the exact opposite of the behavior of a man who's really into you.
7. Don't let your desire to be loved and feel affection cloud your judgment.
8. A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves.
9. What guys do if they can't live without you: They don't break up with you.
10. Always be classy. Never be crazy.
11. Best revenge is not anger, but emotional distance.
12. Any good, mature guy better make an attempt to love your friends and family---especially when they're great.
13. Being the person who makes you feel shitty or doesn't honor the person you are, is worse.
14. The minute you realize the situation is making you feel depressed and hurt and it's really not going to go the way you want it to, please put an end to it as soon as you can.
It's really worth reading. By the time you finished reading this book, you'll be smarter to pick out the rotten tomatoes among the bunch. *wink*
I'll end this entry with this paragraph from the book:
"Don't ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don't waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all the things he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie. The only good thing you need to know is that it's really good news: He's gone. Hallelujah!"
Goodluck! :)